THE PERFECT ALL TIME FATHER – COULD HE BE YOURS?
My dad was a remarkably good man, a very loving and caring dad, in fact, the ideal and best dad a child will ever wish to have. Dad loved us so tremendously I cannot remember a single day in my life when I was not loved so deeply and unconditionally by my dad. Dad was the kind of father every child would ever dream of having; he was the sweetest and most precious dad on God’s earth! I knew that whenever Dad was around, I was safe and no one could ever harm me. However, this is only a shadow of the magnitude of my heavenly Father’s love for me and you. Therefore, if you are thinking that your earthly father loves you so dearly, then wait until you see what your Heavenly Father has in store for you. If an earthly father as my dad could have and express such unconditional love, compassion, and favour towards his undeserving daughter, knowing and yet accepting her just as she is—and always wanting and working towards the best for her—then how much more will my Heavenly DAD, who created me and you and knows us incredibly well, the exact purpose of our existence, desire to have a genuine and profound relationship with me and you? How much more will he love, forgive, and extend his grace, mercy, and compassion in abundance towards me and you—even when we fall short of his standards and expectations? How much more would he gladly discipline and order our steps out of love and compassion—towards the path of success and fulfilment? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven . . . (Luke 11: 13)
One quiet evening, while watching Titanic with my husband— and eventually reflecting on the power and implications of God’s steadfast and immense love for me—which is revealed in John 3: 16, I turned to my beloved husband (Mike) and asked him this question, ‘Could you ever give up your life to save mine, because of your love for me?’ He smiled without responding. I went further with the question, ‘If I was about to be shot by a gunman, would you step up before me to protect me and be shot in my place so as to save me?’ He then laughed so loud and did not respond with either a yes or a no; rather, he rephrased the question, ‘Would you want me to come in front of the gunman and be shot?’ He kept laughing and found it very funny. I then reminded him that he is commanded and expected to love me as Christ loved the Church and gave up his own very life for it. As I wrote these words down, I realised something I have never noticed before. I said, ‘. . . as my husband is commanded and expected to love me’, however, my God freely chose and made the decision to love me and freely gave up the life of his beloved and only Son—in order to save me from perishing and grant me eternal life. It was his sovereign choice and decision—and he did it willingly and not because he was commanded or expected to do so. It is therefore independent of how I feel towards him, regardless of my love for him—for he loved me and chose me even before the foundation of the earth (Eph. 1: 4). Not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins (1 John 4: 10). We therefore now love one another, because he first loved us.
The dialogue with my spouse also made me realise how limited our love for each other as humans is, and most significantly, how shaky it is to rely on man’s love. If there be anything I could recommend you to rely on—it is God’s love for you—it never fails nor departs from you. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord (Rom. 8: 38-39). Therefore, it is very critical for us to know that we could only ‘. . . rely on God’s love for us. For God is love’. You must note that he does not only love, but represents love, for this is his true nature and identity, and therefore, whoever loves knows God, and he who lives in love lives in God, and God in them. This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgement . . . Consequently, there is absolutely no fear in love—but perfect love drives out fear—because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us (1 John 4: 16-19).
Hence, it is my ultimate heart’s desire and prayer that ‘ . . . you, being rooted and established in love, may have power . . . to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God’ (Eph. 3: 17-19). Consequently, my dear friends and loved ones, I hereby call on you to recognise and acknowledge the fact that GOD’s love for us is immense, free, and an undeserved gift for me and you—it is not earned and will never be earned. We labour in vain if we try to work so hard in order to earn it. In terms of standard and holiness, no one can meet GOD’s standard by deeds or hard work—it is only through the blood of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ that we stand righteous and holy before him.
Happy Father’s Day once more! There is NEVER A FATHERLESS CHILD! Look onto GOD, THE PERFECT FATHER OF ALL!
All my love xx